TIME SAVVY; Spending Your Time On What Matter Most

The Principle of Effective Time Management.
Ishola Ayodele

Carl Sandburg once said, "Time is the most valuable coin in your life. You and you alone will determine how that coin will be spent. Be careful that you do notlet other people spend it for you".

Let us explore effective time management using the Stephen Covey's Matrix 

Quadrant 1: Urgent-Important.

These are the most pressing of tasks we’ll likely get to this week. These are things that need pressing attention,  they may be beneficial or not beneficial to us.

Eg
Attending to a crying baby,
Answering a call,
fire-fighting,
Taking your clothes in during the rain,
Picking your child after school,
Cooking dinner for your husband,
Attending to your guests,
Going on an errand for your boss or parents,
Etc


Quadrant 2: Not Urgent – Important.

These are the things that matter in
the long-term but will yield no tangible benefits this week or even this year. They are things we know
we need to get to but probably will
push off.

Eg
Exercise
Recreation
Vacation
Taking a particular course,
setting a goal for our future,
learning a skill, Relationship-building,
Getting education,
Saving,
Investing,
Planning for marriage,
Planning for parenting,
Securing accommodation or changing your accommodation,
Developing new habits, Quitting bad habit like drinking or smoking,
Spending quality time with your child to know him/her,
Most successful people spend much of their time here. Please take note of this


Quadrant 3: Urgent – Not Important.

 These tasks are the biggest reason
we’re not more successful in the
long-term. They clog up our time today but, when we look back at
these things at the end of the week,
They take up our valuable time through urgency.
E.g
Watch Live match,
Soap operas,
Live TV programmes,
Unwanted guests,
Prolonged browsing,
Computer games,
Play stations,
Student union rallies,


Quadrant 4:
Not Urgent –
Not Important.

These things we do
because we feel like we’re tired and
need a break.
E.g
It’s checking and rechecking
Facebook and Twitter,
Excessive chat on WhatsApp,
watching lengthy movies or season films in one sitting,
engaging in gossip,
Unnecessary argument over football or people, Discussion that is of no benefit
Etc

"There will never be enough time for us to do all things we desire in life but there will always be enough time to do the things which mattered most in our lives if we are wise"

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He offers the following services to Large Corporations, SMEs and Individuals.
Result Oriented Communication,
Effective Crisis Communication,
Effectual Political Communication,
Reputation and Image management,
And Impactful Presentation Coaching.
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THE PURPOSE OF LIFE; Why You Are Who You Are.

Are You Here By Accident Or For A Purpose?

Of all the creatures in the world your creator chooses to create you a human not by your choice or power but because he has a purpose for your life.

Every living man is a message bearer of his/her creator to the world but he/she alone must decide whether to deliver the message or die with it.
There is nothing like a man without a purpose but a man who is ignorant of his purpose in life.

To fully comprehend the wisdom behind the above paragraph, THINK!
Of the more than 500,000 spermatozoa released in a single ejaculation by your father into your mother by, How come it was the spermatozoa carrying you that out ran others to fertilize your mothers ovum?

How come you were born a girl and not a boy or a boy and not a girl? Believe me; it goes beyond the X and Y chromosomes they taught you in biology.      
                                   
You may want to say my father has already gotten two or three boys or girls before me. So, the probability that I will be a boy or a girl was high.

That still does not answer the question; ask yourself again How come you also ended up being a girl when your parents anticipated a boy vise versa?

How come you grow amidst childhood diseases and still survive to become an able bodied man or lady while some other people had been rendered disabled by those diseases?

If you are a Handicap, How come among your family members you are physically challenged?

As a physically challenged person: For instance if you are a cripple, Have you ever wondered why your mobility and not your sight or hearing was taken from you?

Have you ever wondered why you can do something better than other things?

Doesnt it amaze you why some people prefer to confide in you than other people?

How come you took ill and recovered while some other people did not?

Have you thought for a second while you woke up this morning alive while some other people had passed on?

10. Finally, how come you are reading this book now out of the thousands of books in the market?
 What do you think is/are the answer(s) to these questions?
      Is it because you are religious?
      Is it because you are smart?
      Is it because of your sins?

None of these answers and many more answers are correct.  If you meditate deeply you will discover that the only answer to all these questions is PURPOSE.

What you are and in whatever circumstances you find your self, there is a purpose for it.

Whatever you are given as an advantage is meant for the fulfillment of your purpose in life. And whatever you lack naturally is not a hindrance to the fulfillment of your purpose in life.

In fact, those things you lack naturally are what may stand between you and the realization of your purpose in life.
 if you are born short in height it means your success in life does not depend on how tall you. If you are a female it means your purpose in life can only be fulfilled by being a female. In fact, being a male may doom you.

 And if you are a cripple it means your success in life does not depend on your ability to walk.
So, stop crying over spilt milk on those things you lack because you cannot know how best your purpose can be fulfilled than the ONE who gave you the purpose.  

Lucky was a friend of mine who had a backslap in a motor accident and since then he had been unable to sit or stand up right, he can only lie flat on his chest or back.  But despite his disability lucky is the C.E.O of Sophluck enterprises a company that specializes in film editing and conversion of VHS to VCD.
A company he established and nurtured to profitability while on his bed. One day, we were discussing our achievement and wondering what would have happened to us if we were not physically changed.
I said I dont know what would have happened to me but I know I wouldnt have achieved what I have achieved today because of the nature of my friends then. Just then lucky said I know what would have happened to me, I would have died because I am temperamental and always at loggerhead with the Niger delta boys when I was in Port Harcourt.
At that point I realized my creator took away my mobility to prevent my sheep from wondering with the dog out of the fence of the shepherd and ending up in the tummy of a wolf

THE BROOKLYN BRIDGE; The story of a man that conquers death

The Reason Why Some People Succeed Where Others Had failed.
Ishola Ayodele

In 1870, a creative engineer named John Roebling was inspired by an idea to build a spectacular bridge connecting New York with the Long Island.

However bridge building experts throughout the world thought that this
was an impossible feat and told Roebling to forget the idea. It just could not be done. It was not practical. It had never been done before.

Roebling could not ignore the vision he had in his mind of this bridge. He thought about it all the time and he knew deep in his heart that it could be done.

He just had to share the dream with someone else. After much discussion and persuasion he managed to convince his son Washington, an up and coming engineer, that the bridge in fact could
be built.

Working together for the first time, the father and son developed concepts of how it could be accomplished and how the obstacles could be overcome. With great excitement and inspiration, and the headiness of a wild challenge before them, they hired their crew and began to build their dream bridge.

The project started well, but when it was only a few months underway a tragic accident on the site took the life of John Roebling.

Washington was also injured and left with a certain amount of brain damage, which resulted in him not being able to talk or walk.

“We told them so.” “Crazy men and their crazy dreams.” “It’s foolish to chase wild visions.”

Everyone had a negative comment to make and felt that the project should be scrapped since the Roeblings were the only ones who knew how the bridge could be built.

In spite of his handicap Washington was never discouraged and still had a burning desire to complete the bridge and his mind was still as sharp as ever. He tried to inspire and pass on his enthusiasm to some of his friends, but they were too daunted by the task.

As he lay on his bed in his hospital room, with the sunlight streaming through the windows, a gentle breeze blew the flimsy white curtains apart and he was able to see the sky and the tops of the trees outside for just a moment. It seemed that there was a message for him not to give up.

Suddenly an idea hit him. All he could do was move one finger and he decided to make the best use of it. By moving this, he slowly developed a code of communication with his wife.

He touched his wife’s arm with that finger, indicating to her that he wanted her to call the engineers again. Then he used the same method of tapping her arm to tell the engineers what to do. It seemed foolish but the project was under way again.

For 13 years Washington tapped out his instructions with his finger on his wife’s arm, until the bridge was finally completed.

Today the spectacular Brooklyn Bridge stands in all its glory as a tribute to the triumph of one man’s indomitable spirit and his determination not to be defeated by circumstances.

It is also a tribute to the engineers and their team work, and to their faith in a man who was considered mad by half the world. It stands too as a tangible monument to the love and devotion of his wife who for 13 long years patiently decoded the messages of her husband and told the engineers what to do.

This is one of the best examples of a
never-say-die attitude that overcomes a terrible physical handicap and achieves an impossible goal.

Always know that as you embark on your purpose in life you will face constraints. The law of constraints states that, "between you and a noteworthy achievement there will be constraints".

You should also know that due to these constraints you will fail not once not twice not even a dozen times. But what you must never do is QUIT.

You must keep trying after every failure. Just as Michael Jordan had said, "I can accept failure but I can not  accept not trying".

Tom Hopkins once said, "The World does not judge a man by the number of times he fails but by the number of times he succeeds, but the number of times he succeeds is directly proportional to the number of times he fails".

This is why the world celebrated Thomas Edison today for inventing the light bulb forgetting that he failed almost 10,000 yes 10,000 times before he could produce the first light bulb.

In the fight between the stream and the rock the stream always win not due to strength or toughness but due to PERSISTENCE.

Persistence is what distinguishes between those who make things happen from those those who watch thing happen.

Martin Luther King Jr said, "if you can't fly, run, if you can't run, walk, if you can't walk, crawl, if you can't crawl just keep moving till you reach your goal".

And Abraham Lincoln said, "You must never give up until you make your last attempt and you must never make your last attempt until you succeed".

I want you to know that, "There is no circumstances greater than your determination to succeed".

*"The greatest tragedy of life is not that we die but that a man can live without fulfilling his/her purpose in life"*

What is the purpose of life?

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He offers the following services to Large Corporations, SMEs and Individuals.
Result Oriented Communication,
Effective Crisis Communication,
Effectual Political Communication,
Reputation and Image management,
And Impactful Presentation Coaching.
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The Great Secret Of Wealth Creation

What Investment Are You Toiling For
Ishola Ayodele (ANIPR)

I have always maintain that, "A man that is not dying for something is actually living for nothing".

It was Robert Kiyosaki who said, "business is like a wheelbarrow, nothing happens until you push". The same can be said for success it doesn't happen until you put in purposeful and creative effort.

Unfortunately today Nigerian youths are looking for fast money. This is a misplace of priority and ignorance.

Setting Money as your goal will only make you a slave to money. Money is a medium of exchange what you need to do is to create wealth.

Wealth is something of value that you posses that others are willing and ready to pay for. When you invest heavily (time, effort and money) to create wealth, money comes looking for you even while you are sleep.

It is also selfish of you to think that people must pay you for your passion. Passion in itself will not translate to wealth unless you are able to tailor your passion towards creating valuable products/service that solve a critical problem in the market place.

At the Market Square the buyers are the judge. And a very selfish one for that matter who thinks only of how your solution solves his problem and not how passionate you care about your products/service or how hard you work to create the product/service.
 To learn more about wealth creation read The human being syndrome; The principle of taking purposeful action. 

In his great book, "The Law of Success". Napoleon Hill wrote
"At the table of success there is no bargaining, a price must be paid fast and energetically"

Usain Bolt ran for less than 115 secs in total in his 3 Olympics careers and made 119 million dollars!!!
That's more than $1M for each second he ran! And he hasn't run more than 2 mins on the track.
But for those 2 mins, he trained for over 25 years!!!

That's what I call investment!

Floyd Mayweather Jr Career Boxing

Statistics Shows a total of 75 wins.  49 wins by KO (Knockout) and 26 wins by unanimous Decision. He retired undefeated champion.

Floyd Mayweather earned over $220million for his fight against Manny Pacquiao.

What this implies is that for every minute in the ring Mayweather gets close to $7,000,000.

His training is an intense 40 round training Routine.
boxingnewsandviews called "The Inhuman training'.
Dailymail described it as "brutal training regimen"

But that's what I call investment!

Mark Zuckerberg as at August 2016 is worth $53.7billion making him the 5th richest man on earth.

Zuckerberg dropped out of college to devote himself to Facebook full time, moving the company to Palo Alto, California.

That's what I call investment!!

A great thinker of antiquity Henry Wadsworth Longfellow said and I quote,
"The heights by great men reached and kept were not attained by sudden flight, but they, while their companions slept, were toiling upward in the night"

So, my question is, what investment are you toiling for presently?

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To learn how to avoid distractions that may hinder your success read, Finding Your Focus

Ishola Ayodele is a Public Relations practitioner and a member of the Nigerian Institute of Public Relations.

He offers the following services to Large Corporations, SMEs and Individuals.
Result Driven Communication,

Effective Crisis Communication,

Effectual Political Communication,

Reputation and Image management,

And Impactful Presentation Coaching.

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FINDING YOUR FOCUS

The Ageless Secret to Effective Time
Management.

 

In his book "18 minutes" Peter Bregman suggested, " The need to slow down our momentum and focus on our outcome and be open to extraordinary potential.

He postulated the THE THREE DAY-RULE

This rule states that "nothing stays on the list more than three
days".

everything falls into one of these 4
categories after three days:

1. Do it immediately.

2. Schedule it. Put it on your calendar and commit to doing it.

3. Let it go if it is not enough of a
priority.

4. If you simply cannot let it go, then he has a “someday/maybe/later list” that he looks at monthly.

Finding our Focus entitles effective management of our time and managing our time needs to become a ritual.

It needs to be an ongoing process we follow no matter what to keep us focused on our priorities throughout the day. This is the only way we focus on doing what real matters as far as achieving our lives' ambition is concern.

I think we can do it in three steps that take less than 18 minutes over an eight-hour workday.

STEP 1 (5 Minutes) Set Plan for Day.

Before turning on your computer , sit down with a blank piece of paper and decide what will make this day highly successful.

What can you realistically accomplish that will further your goals and allow you to leave at the end of the day feeling like you’ve been productive and successful?
Write those things down.

In their book "The Power of Full Engagement",
Jim Loehr and Tony Schwartz describe a study in which a group of women agreed to do a breast self-exam during a period of 30 days. 100% of those who said where and when they were going to do it completed the exam. Only 53% of the others did.

STEP 2 (1 minute every hour - 8 minutes) Refocus.

Set your watch, phone, or computer to ring every hour. When it rings, take a deep breath, look at your list and ask yourself if you spent your last hour productively.

Then look at your calendar and
deliberately recommit to how you are going to use the next hour. Manage your day hour by hour. Don’t let the hours manage you.

STEP 3 (5 minutes) Review.

Shut off your computer and review your day.

What worked?

Where did you focus?

 Where did you get distracted?

What did you learn that will help you be more productive tomorrow?

It was Ralph Waldo Emerson who said, "That which we persist in doing becomes easier to do, not that the nature of the task has changed but that our ability to do it has increased"

And according to Wood & Nea (2007),   "As behaviors are repeated in a consistent context, there is an incremental increase i the link between the context and the action. This increases the automaticity of the behavior in that context."

So the outcome of a ritual is predictable too. If you choose your focus deliberately and wisely and consistently remind yourself of that focus, you will stay focused. It’s simple.

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Ishola Ayodele is a Public Relations practitioner and a member of the Nigerian Institute of Public Relations.

He offers the following services to Large Corporations, SMEs and Individuals.

Result Driven Communication,

Effective Crisis Communication,

Effectual Political Communication,

Reputation and Image management,

And Impactful Presentation Coaching.

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8 Effective Communication Skills That Will Make You A Better Communicator

Communicating in way that inspires your listener and moves them to where you want them to be.

By Ishola Ayodele (ANIPR) Result Driven Communication Expert.

An effective communication skill makes it so much easier to be understood and listened to, leaving you feeling much calmer and more appreciated, thus eliminating a lot of tension that people have in their lives.(speakthemovie.com)

To communicate in other to move people to where you want them to be requires understanding where they are presently and why they are there (in term of their reasoning, ideology or perception.)

Communication is not all about talking or getting an applause. This has been the major draw back of most motivational talks, people applauded the speaker then went back to their old attitudes.

Effective communication seeks to change people's behaviour by first acknowledging their differences and perspectives of life then getting them to see a clear picture of things in their minds so they begin to see things the way they are.  This enable the people to discover the truth by themselves and accept it as their own without being forced or feeling humiliated into accepting the other person's opinion.

Here are some 8 Effective communication skills that can help boost your career and relationship.

1. Give them the impression that you’re
enthusiastic about talking to them.

They want to feel that you would rather be talking to them than anyone else. When you give them the impression that you are excited about talking to them and that you care about them, you make them feel better about themselves. As a result, they’ll be more likely to really open up to you.

2. Ask open-ended questions about

their interests. 

Ask questions that will get them to talk about their interests and their life in a way that provides you with insight into their needs and wants.

When you help them gain a new, positive perspective about their situation, they will feel a deep sense of

connection with you.

3. Adapt to their body language and

feelings. 

Pay special attention to their

nonverbal communication. Watch their body language and posture, also take

note of their inflection and word choices. Now, tailor your words, body

language , and voice tone to match what

you have observed. Doing this will help

them feel a deep subconscious

connection with you.

4. Show them approval: Tell them what

you admire about them and why. 

One of the best ways to instantly connect with people is to be forthright and tell them exactly why you like or admire them. If being too direct isn’t appropriate, insinuate with a few indirect statements here and there. Either approach can be equally as effective because everyone responds well to approval.

5. Listen attentively to everything they

say. 

Don’t focus too much on what

you’re going to say next as they are

talking. Instead, listen to every word

they say and respond back as relevantly

and smoothly as possible. This shows

people that you are interested in what

they have to say and you are fully

engaged and in the moment with them.

Also make sure to ask questions

whenever there’s something they say

that you don’t quite understand. This

will help fill any potentially awkward

lapses in communication.

6. Respect the other person's opinion.

People won't care about your facts and genuine opinion if you make them feel they are stupid for having such opinions. At best they keep their grudges inside them if you are their boss, at worst they will insult you back and the discussion becomes an argument and then a disputes.

But If people felt that you respected their point of views and have listened attentively to them, they will reciprocate by respecting your opinion too and may want to give it a consideration because they would have been able to understood your point of view too and even if they won't accept your views they will be polite about it.

They beauty of this skill is that it paves the way for another meeting to rediscuss this same issue with open mind.


7. Try to focus on the hidden interest of the other person.

See from the other person's perspectives by putting yourself in his/her shoe. You will never be able to get the other person to understand you if you do not seek to understand him/her first.

If you focus on what he/she is saying and why he/she is saying such thing you will be able to understand the hidden interest.

Sometimes, 50/50 may not be the best solution. Yes, it may be 70/30 or 60/40 or even 20/80 if we really understand the hidden drive or interest that people really have in an issue.


In their book titled *GETTING TO YES*(Negotiating an agreement without giving in) Roger Fisher and William Ury illustrated this idea masterfully with the story of two sisters fighting over an orange. The elder wanted to bake a cake so she needs it and younger sister wants to eat the orange. For a win-win solution they divided the orange into two. But If each had focused on the hidden interest of the other. They would have realised that the elder sister only needed the orange peel  while the younger sister needed just the juice.

Understanding their interest you see that each actually got less than she could have gotten instead of equal share. Therefore, it becomes imperative that we focus our communication lens to see through the fog of apparent argument and look deep into the reasoning behind the argument to understand the hidden interest of people for effective communication to take place.


8. Acknowledge gender or age differences.

You must learn that different audience require different approach of responses. Many communication breakdown can be attributed to the lack of this skill especially in marriage or relationship.
We are not all the same, we process information differently.

One effective communication mistake is over-looking the acknowledgment of gender differences in communication. It may sound stereotypical, but men often communicate on a factual level, because they analyse issues but women communicate on an emotional level because they synthesis. It can lead to misunderstandings amongst the people who lacks this communication skill.
For instance,
Men quarrel over present issue and its effect on him or his Spouse. Women quarrel over a over a trend of events that they perceived may have negative consequences on the relationship or the children and their well being.

So, be mindful of your responses when discussing with opposite sex, youth, adolescents or children. Either of these people have their own peculiarities and you much treat them as such.
Remember, Effective communication is not a one size fits all thing.

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How Your Sleeping Position Is Connected To Your Personality

SLEEPING POSITIONS

how do you sleep?

A sleep study undertaken by specialists in London have discovered that there is a connection between your sleeping position and your personality.

The study found that there are six main sleeping positions and those that shared the same positions also had the same personality.

1. The Fetus – Curled Up With One Arm Under The Pillow.

You are strong on the outside but sensitive and vulnerable on the inside. You are also shy when meeting new people but eventually warm up to them.


2. The Log – On The Side With Arms And Legs Straight.

You are very trusting, easygoing and love to socialize but sometimes a bit gullible.


3. The Yearner – Similar To The Log But With Arms Stretched Out.

You are very open to people and experiences but slightly cynical. You are cautious and slow at making decisions but once decided you usually stick to your decision.


4. The Soldier – Flat On Your Back With Arms And Legs Straight.

You are shy and reserved. You also set high expectations for yourself and others which leads to being very judgmental.


5. The Freefaller – Lying On Your Stomach Hugging The Pillow
You are bold and love to socialize but find it really hard to take criticism.


6. The Starfish – On Your Back With Arms Floating Around Your Head.

You are friendly and also very humble. You like to help others but hate being the center of attention.

Thus, next time you sleep have your spouse or friend snap a pics of you so that you can know your sleeping position. (just being funny) 😀

Ishola Ayodele is the CEO of Bezit Global Link Limited and the Facilitator of Success Attitude Development And Empowerment Centre (SADEC)

A Public Relations practitioner and a
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How To Become Indispensable At What You Do

Becoming The Go-to Person That Everyone Counts on.
 by Ishola Ayodele (ANIPR), Result oriented communication Expert.

Does your absence cause a halt or slows down work at your workplace?


The amount of money you will earn in your life will be determined by three things

1. The NEED for what you do.

2. Your ABILITY to do it.

3. And being INDISPENSABLE.

Some people mistake indispensable for irreplaceable, says Amy Hoover, president of Talent ZOO but they’re not the same thing.
“As they say, everyone can be replaced. But to be indispensable means that you are so good and efficient at your job, that your boss and co-workers don’t want to imagine replacing you,”

she says. “You are the go-to person they
count on; the one who simply gets things done.”

Andy Teach, author of the book "From Graduation to Corporation" , and host of the YouTube channel FromGradToCorp said, “In the minds of your supervisors and perhaps your co-workers, you are essential to the overall success of the department or even the company. Their feeling is that you are a necessary and valued part of the machine. They depend on you.”

Rita Friedman, a Philadelphia-based career coach and resume writer said, “in any workplace, you’ll still find people who are absolutely indispensable – that is to say that productivity would grind to a halt if
they were suddenly no longer there.

And it’s not just C-level executives who hold this distinction; it could be an employee at any level in any department of the organization.”

ADVANTAGES OF   BEING INDISPENSABLE  

A. There is a great feeling of satisfaction in a job well done and knowing that you’re making an impact.
“In this day and age when employee job satisfaction is nearly at an all-time low, it’s a great goal to have.”

B. Being indispensable can help your morale because you’re going to enjoy your job more knowing how valuable you are to the company,” he says. “It not only makes you feel that you’re
contributing to something greater
than yourself, but it also provides you with validation of what you do and who you are.”

C. Being indispensable also puts you in
a comfort zone because you won’t
have to worry as much about losing your job, “which is one less stress you won’t have to endure,” he adds.
“You have greater job security—and will (hopefully) be the last one to go if your department or company is forced to make layoffs.”

D. You’re more likely to get a raise or promotion; and you may be sought out for your special projects, opinions, and direction, says Marsha Enga

Do you Want to be indispensable now?

HERE IS HOW TO BE INDISPENSABLE

1. Do Work That Matters, Not Work That’s Easy.

Brian Tracy book "The Enemy Call Average" says it all, nobody will ever notice you for being an average staff or colleague.

To do work that matters you must make sure that you are doing work that are meaningful to the development and growth of your company and your career.

Let this words of wisdom from Jim Collins guide you
“For, in the end, it is impossible to have a great life unless it is a meaningful life. And it is very difficult to have a meaningful life without meaningful work.”


2. Monopolize A Particular Skill.

Become so good at a particular skill that is sought after in your field that whenever anybody thinks of doing that job they think of you.

Israelmore Ayivor made himself indispensable by putting it excellently well in his poem

"Everybody is standing, but you must stand out.

Everybody is breaking grounds; but you must breakthrough!

Everybody scratching it; but you must scratch it hard!

Everybody is going, but you must keep going extra miles!

Dare to be exceptionally excellent and why not?"


3. Be Willing To Go The Extra Mile.

Be prepared to rinse the cottage like Jim Collins said in his book "Good to Great".
The way to add value to yourself and become indispensable is to do more than you are paid to do.  Success in life comes from what you do after what you are expected to do.
Here are 4Cs that will help you go the extra mile.
Consistency,
Commitment,
Creativity,
and Competency.


4. Don't Be A Go-For Manager.

These are employees who just executed. They are just like errand boys. If your days at work is nothing but go for this, go for that without any input from you then you know you are a go-for manager. Expert will call this a hiring mistake.

But if you’re one of the few who are constantly coming up with new ideas and are taking on new responsibilities you will become indispensable. And you become an asset to the company.

Jim Collins puts it masterfully well when he wrote,
“The moment you feel the need to tightly manage someone, you’ve made a hiring mistake. The best people don’t need to be managed. Guided, taught, led–yes. But not tightly managed.”


5. Help Others Without Expecting Much In Return.

Be a team player who helps his/her team members succeed. The fastest to succeed is to help others succeed.
Little wonder Brian Tracy observed that,  "Successful people are always looking for opportunities to help others. Unsuccessful people are always asking "What's in it for me?"

And Mohammed Ali believes,
"Service to others is the rent you pay for your room here on earth".

6. Be Impeccable And Trustworthy.

People should be able to take your word to the bank. They should able to have faith in your integrity to do what you have promised to do and believe that you won't betrayed them on an agreement. When they close their eyes to jump because you told them to they needn't be afraid it is deceit.
Mean what you say and only say what you mean. Be a man of honour and integrity.
President Muhammadu Buhari won the 2015 general election as an opposition candidate a feat that has never happened in Nigeria before 2015. Do you know why?
Nigerians didn't vote for Buhari because his is business tycoon,
He only owns a ranch of cattle

his level of education, No, he only had secondary school certificate before joining the army,

his charismatic nature, No, he is an introvert,

His erudite speeches, No, he is reticent who will rather act than talk.

Then why? INTEGRITY.  Nigerians considered all politicians corrupt except Muhammadu Buhari even his opponents attest to his integrity.


7. Be Honest, Open And Adaptable.

The law of divine economics States that, "you will always get back in many folds whatever you lose by being HONEST".

Be honest, and you will have nothing to hide. You can only fool some people some times you cannot fool all the people all the time.

This is why Mark Twain said, " Truth is the most valuable thing we have, so I try to conserve it.


8. Build Relationships With Senior Managers.

 Be amiable to everyone. Do favours for people, help your superior get better at what they do. Don't look for their mistakes to bring them down, even if you see their fault and they don't use wisdom to correct them.
For instance, you have a manager that has problem keeping to time. Present him a good book on 'Time Management' on his next birthday or any open opportunity. You will be making impact in his life and thus you are adding to your own emotional bank account with him.
 Remember "people don't care how much you know until you show them how much you care"  so said Zig Ziglar.

In a nutshell,
The true and enduring route to greatness is to add so much value to yourself that people can't do without you.

This is what is called being INDISPENSABLE

I leave you with this powerful thought provoking words of wisdom from the great Leo Rosten(American humorist in the fields of scriptwriting, storywriting, journalism and Yiddish lexicography) from his book "The Education of Hyman Kaplan"
"The purpose of life is not to be happy — but to matter , to be productive, to be useful, to have it make some difference that you have lived at all".

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A Public Relations practitioner and a
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Research: How To Be More Intelligent And Smarter Than We Are Now.

Just How Smart And Intelligent Can We Be?

Written by Ishola Ayodele (ANIPR), An Effectual Communication Expert.


EXPLORING THE BRAIN

The brain has about 100 billion neurons. The synapse (that is the gap between two neurons) is 100 trillion
Which equals the number of emails sent in a year.  And for learning to take place information must pass through the synapses.

Highly intelligent people are people whose synapses facilitate easy movement of information from one neuron to another.

And people who struggle with learning are those whose synapses do not allow the passage of information easily.
The brain has ridges or folds called "GYRI" which contains billion of nerve cells and the gap between the GYRI is the SULCI. So,  the sizes of human brains are not the same, the more the folds the more the brain power.

The frontal lobe plays a very important role in who we are for it coordinates our
I. Behaviour
II. Planning
III. Understanding what we are going to do next.
IV. Staying organised.

There is a part of this frontal lobe that controls our fingers. And most people who use their fingers a lot like violinist, pianist or typist develop a special pattern of GYRI in the front of the frontal lobe.
A very important part of the brain is the parietal lobe which is just behind the frontal lobe.

The parietal lobe is responsible for
I. how we form picture of things around us.
II. 3D image rotation.
III. Spacial imaging.

A research on the best mathematics junior student in the world, 13 year old SHYAM NARAYANAN using the FMRI machine shows that he uses more of his parietal lobe to solve mathematics.

Further researches also show that most mathematically gifted kids use these area five to six times more than average students.

Albert Einstein was regarded as the greatest scientist to ever lived. It was discovered that Einstein's parietal lobe is 15% larger than any other person in the world.

Albert Einstein's brain is currently being stored at the University Medical Center at Princeton.
It is believed that Einstein and other great scientists uses a large percentage of their parietal lobes while some many others use just a little percentage which accounts for why they are not genii.
Research has shown that we can actually develop our parietal lobe through some carefully planned process.
Because the brain has been designed to increase in capacity with continual usage.

Here are some few things that can make you too a genius if you practice it well.

1. Take omega 3, 6, 9
Omega 3,6,9 improves the passage of information from one neuron to another.

A research on some dormant brain children who lack interest in reading or learning shows considerably increase in the desire to learn and an significant improvement in their reading and writing after they were given omega 3 six times a day for some weeks.
Omega 3, 6, 9 can be found in fish oil  eg
Halibut
Herring
Mackerel
Oysters
Salmon
Sardines
Cod liver oil
grapeseed oil,
pumpkin seeds,
Pignolia (pine) nuts,
pistachio nuts,
raw sunflower seeds (raw),
borage oil,
Olive oil (extra virgin or virgin), olives,
avocados,
almonds,
peanuts,
sesame oil,
pecans,
pistachio nuts,
cashews,
hazelnuts,
macadamia nuts


2. Engage in moderate exercises :
 this will boost the circulation of blood to your brain and nourish your brain with oxygenated blood.

3. Juggle balls or other things maybe plastic bottles or coins. The process of juggling keeps you focus and make the brain function optimally.

4. Take brain task like
Puzzle
Logical questions
Brain teasers etc

5. Use more of your weak part. It has been discovered that our left part of the  brain control our right side of the body. That is your right hand is controlled by your left brain.

So, if you are right handed you use more of your left brain thus that region develop while your right part of the  brain remain less active.
Use more of your left hand too to develop your brain equally. I am currently typing with my left hand though I'm right handed.

6. Last  but not the  least. SLEEP:
 please get enough sleep, for proper functioning of your brain you must have at least six(6) hours sleep.
Recent research has shown that sleeping around 9-10pm is even better.

I'm currently compiling some  information on how to really develop the brain so as to become smarter and other great stuff that will help you get better in your career. Both PDFs and videos.
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NOTE
I'm not an expert on brain or neurology.
My attempt here is to share my little understanding based on the little knowledge have acquired because I care about you.
The best thing you can do to those you love is to benefit them with knowledge you have benefitted from.  So,  share this info with others.
Written by Ishola Ayodele

The True Path To Ensuring Success & Happiness

               SELF-CONTROL
"The true virtue of success and happiness"
By
Ishola Ayodele (ANIPR)
Result Driven Communication Expert

According to a recent research by Wilhelm Hofmann and his team of researchers at the University of Chicago.
"People with a lot of self-control are happier".

Now I understand why
the great Greek philosopher Aristotle wrote I count him braver he who overcomes is desired than he who conquers is enemy, for the hardest victory is the victory over self.

Without self-control you can never enjoy a happy life. You will always jump from problem to another and you tend to be the destroyer of your own successful effort.

Without self-control you will always bring yourself and loved ones pain and suffering.

You will always hinder your success as well as success of those close to you. Consequently, people will desert you to protect their achievements and happiness.

Exercising great self-control or restrain is the backbone of all noteworthy achievement.

A man who cannot control himself can never control anything successfully.

If you cannot control yourself you cannot control the affairs of your life and if you cannot control the affairs of your life, you can never control the mechanisms that will attract success into your life,

You were created a chief executive officer of your company, yes, you are the C.E.O of your life, your business is the fulfillment of your purpose in life and your product is your Divine gift but just as any other business will run down if the owner is careless. Your life can also run down if you don't take proper control of it.

You must have sound self-control over your life to succeed. Here are four departments of your life you must exercise great self-control.

i. Your Speech.

It is said that words can make or break a man. You must learn to hold your tongue. It must not be allowed to roam carelessly. You must be very careful not to talk too much about your Divine gift with people, so that people wont think you are proud and also to prevent the envious people from side tracking or undermining your success.

You must not be careless to give out your ideas when you are discussing with people. This is because if the idea is sound but you dont have the means with which to actualize it now, someone with the where-withal among the people you were talking to might just pick it and before you know it, your idea has suddenly belong to someone else.

You must learn not to talk too much especially in front of people who are intelligent for any time you open your mouth too big in front of those who know you are either showing your ignorance or pride.



ii.     You must take control of your temper.
Prophet Muhammad once said A powerful man is not the man who conquers his fellow man but he who overcomes his temper in time of anger
Jesus Christ said If someone slaps you on the right cheek, you should turn the left cheek to him.
The nitty-gritty of these philosophies is that you cannot show the world how good you are at what you do by showing them how destructive or uncontrollable you can be at the time of anger.
Though, you may be born temperamental but it is purely your own decision whether to control it or to let it control you.

Taribo West was recommended to Carlous Ancelotti the then coach of Ac Milan  by George Weah of Liberia and the coach signed up Taribo for Ac Milan based on this recommendation. Taribo west was at the top of his career playing for one of the biggest and best team in the world then. It was a dream come true for him.

In one of the Ac Milans home matches, Taribo felt he was having a good match but the coach thought otherwise and opted to substitute him for another player.

The substitution was granted by the referee and as Taribo west crossed the line of the pitch to his bench he pulled off his jersey threw it at the coach and walked away into the dressing room.
The coach punished him by not featuring him in any of their matches for the whole season and soon he was not even on the bench anymore and finally Taribo west contract was terminated.

Any time you act in anger you do more destruction or damage to yourself and the people you love than good, because the first thing anger takes from a man is his sense of reasoning.



iii.     You must take control of your spending habit.

You cannot be emotionally sound to go after your Divine gift when you are in debt.

 Debt is a heavy burden which suppresses the idea and initiative of the bearer. A man in debt is like a horse tied to a loaded cart in a competitive race with other free horses.

If your Divine gift is to bring you financial gains, you must learn to delay gratification and cultivate the habit of saving.

To fully understand how to be able to save purposefully, get a copy of my CD The basic principle of saving.

Whatever you have on you now save ten percent (10%) of it, if you do this now you are the right man that Napoleon Bonaparte was talking about when he said The right man is the man who do things now.

You must never let what you like direct your spending habit but what you need because anytime you buy what you like rather than what you need you are foolishly impoverishing yourself to enrich another man.

"Poverty can never be far from a man who earns to spend" so says Pastor Mathew Ashimolowo.


iv.       You must take control of your mind.
For you to be able to conquer yourself, you must have total control of your mind. If you cannot control your mind you cannot make decision yourself, consequently, other people will make decision for you.
It should be noted that mind control is simply Thought control. Your thoughts are the weapon with which you can kill your fears and awake that genius in you to fulfill your purpose in life because it add value to your believe.
And it is said that

A man's value determines his believe,
His believe determines his expectations.
His expectations determines his attitude
His attitude determines his actions.
And his action becomes his character.
Thoughts are things and they should be treated as such. You must control the type of thoughts that you feed your mind or that is suggested to your mind by other people.

Let your mind be pervaded with the thought of the fulfillment of your purpose in life and also of your ability to make it in life with your Divine gift and all the circumstances and people you need for this accomplishment will come your way through the law of attraction.

After Napoleon Bonaparte became the king of France, he became obsessed with power and rather than possessing power, he lost is mind and power possessed him.

First, he drove away his wife Josephine the only woman that had loved him and always advice him. Then he wanted to conquer the world but soon he met his waterloo.

Mind control is the remote with which you can control any feeling you may have, be it anger, hatred, love and even sexual desire.

No matter where you are starting from in life you can always achieve anything you desire if only you can exercise great self control.  
Little wonder, After series of investigation and documentations of men who have failed due to lack of self-control in his book "THE LAW OF SUCCESS" Volume I-III
Napoleon Hill came to the conclusion that, "No man who exercises great self-control can permanently be defeated by life"

And  Pietro Aretino told the world "I am indeed a king, because I know how to rule myself".

Exercise self-control and live a happy and successful life.

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Written by Ishola Ayodele (ANIPR)
Result Driven Communication Expert.
CEO Bezit Global Link Limited.
Proprietor of Paragon of Excellence Int'l School.
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