SELF-CONTROL
"The true virtue of success and happiness"
By
Ishola Ayodele (ANIPR)
Result Driven Communication Expert
According to a recent research by Wilhelm Hofmann and his team of researchers at the University of Chicago.
"People with a lot of self-control are happier".
Now I understand why
the great Greek philosopher Aristotle wrote I count him braver he who overcomes is desired than he who conquers is enemy, for the hardest victory is the victory over self.
Without self-control you can never enjoy a happy life. You will always jump from problem to another and you tend to be the destroyer of your own successful effort.
Without self-control you will always bring yourself and loved ones pain and suffering.
You will always hinder your success as well as success of those close to you. Consequently, people will desert you to protect their achievements and happiness.
Exercising great self-control or restrain is the backbone of all noteworthy achievement.
A man who cannot control himself can never control anything successfully.
If you cannot control yourself you cannot control the affairs of your life and if you cannot control the affairs of your life, you can never control the mechanisms that will attract success into your life,
You were created a chief executive officer of your company, yes, you are the C.E.O of your life, your business is the fulfillment of your purpose in life and your product is your Divine gift but just as any other business will run down if the owner is careless. Your life can also run down if you don't take proper control of it.
You must have sound self-control over your life to succeed. Here are four departments of your life you must exercise great self-control.
i. Your Speech.
It is said that words can make or break a man. You must learn to hold your tongue. It must not be allowed to roam carelessly. You must be very careful not to talk too much about your Divine gift with people, so that people wont think you are proud and also to prevent the envious people from side tracking or undermining your success.
You must not be careless to give out your ideas when you are discussing with people. This is because if the idea is sound but you dont have the means with which to actualize it now, someone with the where-withal among the people you were talking to might just pick it and before you know it, your idea has suddenly belong to someone else.
You must learn not to talk too much especially in front of people who are intelligent for any time you open your mouth too big in front of those who know you are either showing your ignorance or pride.
ii. You must take control of your temper.
Prophet Muhammad once said A powerful man is not the man who conquers his fellow man but he who overcomes his temper in time of anger
Jesus Christ said If someone slaps you on the right cheek, you should turn the left cheek to him.
The nitty-gritty of these philosophies is that you cannot show the world how good you are at what you do by showing them how destructive or uncontrollable you can be at the time of anger.
Though, you may be born temperamental but it is purely your own decision whether to control it or to let it control you.
Taribo West was recommended to Carlous Ancelotti the then coach of Ac Milan by George Weah of Liberia and the coach signed up Taribo for Ac Milan based on this recommendation. Taribo west was at the top of his career playing for one of the biggest and best team in the world then. It was a dream come true for him.
In one of the Ac Milans home matches, Taribo felt he was having a good match but the coach thought otherwise and opted to substitute him for another player.
The substitution was granted by the referee and as Taribo west crossed the line of the pitch to his bench he pulled off his jersey threw it at the coach and walked away into the dressing room.
The coach punished him by not featuring him in any of their matches for the whole season and soon he was not even on the bench anymore and finally Taribo west contract was terminated.
Any time you act in anger you do more destruction or damage to yourself and the people you love than good, because the first thing anger takes from a man is his sense of reasoning.
iii. You must take control of your spending habit.
You cannot be emotionally sound to go after your Divine gift when you are in debt.
Debt is a heavy burden which suppresses the idea and initiative of the bearer. A man in debt is like a horse tied to a loaded cart in a competitive race with other free horses.
If your Divine gift is to bring you financial gains, you must learn to delay gratification and cultivate the habit of saving.
To fully understand how to be able to save purposefully, get a copy of my CD The basic principle of saving.
Whatever you have on you now save ten percent (10%) of it, if you do this now you are the right man that Napoleon Bonaparte was talking about when he said The right man is the man who do things now.
You must never let what you like direct your spending habit but what you need because anytime you buy what you like rather than what you need you are foolishly impoverishing yourself to enrich another man.
"Poverty can never be far from a man who earns to spend" so says Pastor Mathew Ashimolowo.
iv. You must take control of your mind.
For you to be able to conquer yourself, you must have total control of your mind. If you cannot control your mind you cannot make decision yourself, consequently, other people will make decision for you.
It should be noted that mind control is simply Thought control. Your thoughts are the weapon with which you can kill your fears and awake that genius in you to fulfill your purpose in life because it add value to your believe.
And it is said that
A man's value determines his believe,
His believe determines his expectations.
His expectations determines his attitude
His attitude determines his actions.
And his action becomes his character.
Thoughts are things and they should be treated as such. You must control the type of thoughts that you feed your mind or that is suggested to your mind by other people.
Let your mind be pervaded with the thought of the fulfillment of your purpose in life and also of your ability to make it in life with your Divine gift and all the circumstances and people you need for this accomplishment will come your way through the law of attraction.
After Napoleon Bonaparte became the king of France, he became obsessed with power and rather than possessing power, he lost is mind and power possessed him.
First, he drove away his wife Josephine the only woman that had loved him and always advice him. Then he wanted to conquer the world but soon he met his waterloo.
Mind control is the remote with which you can control any feeling you may have, be it anger, hatred, love and even sexual desire.
No matter where you are starting from in life you can always achieve anything you desire if only you can exercise great self control.
Little wonder, After series of investigation and documentations of men who have failed due to lack of self-control in his book "THE LAW OF SUCCESS" Volume I-III
Napoleon Hill came to the conclusion that, "No man who exercises great self-control can permanently be defeated by life"
And Pietro Aretino told the world "I am indeed a king, because I know how to rule myself".
Exercise self-control and live a happy and successful life.
Please Click on a post a comment box below to share your thoughts with me.
Written by Ishola Ayodele (ANIPR)
Result Driven Communication Expert.
CEO Bezit Global Link Limited.
Proprietor of Paragon of Excellence Int'l School.
@ishopr on Twitter
Facebook.com/ay.ishola
08077932282 on WhatsApp
"The true virtue of success and happiness"
By
Ishola Ayodele (ANIPR)
Result Driven Communication Expert
According to a recent research by Wilhelm Hofmann and his team of researchers at the University of Chicago.
"People with a lot of self-control are happier".
Now I understand why
the great Greek philosopher Aristotle wrote I count him braver he who overcomes is desired than he who conquers is enemy, for the hardest victory is the victory over self.
Without self-control you can never enjoy a happy life. You will always jump from problem to another and you tend to be the destroyer of your own successful effort.
Without self-control you will always bring yourself and loved ones pain and suffering.
You will always hinder your success as well as success of those close to you. Consequently, people will desert you to protect their achievements and happiness.
Exercising great self-control or restrain is the backbone of all noteworthy achievement.
A man who cannot control himself can never control anything successfully.
If you cannot control yourself you cannot control the affairs of your life and if you cannot control the affairs of your life, you can never control the mechanisms that will attract success into your life,
You were created a chief executive officer of your company, yes, you are the C.E.O of your life, your business is the fulfillment of your purpose in life and your product is your Divine gift but just as any other business will run down if the owner is careless. Your life can also run down if you don't take proper control of it.
You must have sound self-control over your life to succeed. Here are four departments of your life you must exercise great self-control.
i. Your Speech.
It is said that words can make or break a man. You must learn to hold your tongue. It must not be allowed to roam carelessly. You must be very careful not to talk too much about your Divine gift with people, so that people wont think you are proud and also to prevent the envious people from side tracking or undermining your success.
You must not be careless to give out your ideas when you are discussing with people. This is because if the idea is sound but you dont have the means with which to actualize it now, someone with the where-withal among the people you were talking to might just pick it and before you know it, your idea has suddenly belong to someone else.
You must learn not to talk too much especially in front of people who are intelligent for any time you open your mouth too big in front of those who know you are either showing your ignorance or pride.
ii. You must take control of your temper.
Prophet Muhammad once said A powerful man is not the man who conquers his fellow man but he who overcomes his temper in time of anger
Jesus Christ said If someone slaps you on the right cheek, you should turn the left cheek to him.
The nitty-gritty of these philosophies is that you cannot show the world how good you are at what you do by showing them how destructive or uncontrollable you can be at the time of anger.
Though, you may be born temperamental but it is purely your own decision whether to control it or to let it control you.
Taribo West was recommended to Carlous Ancelotti the then coach of Ac Milan by George Weah of Liberia and the coach signed up Taribo for Ac Milan based on this recommendation. Taribo west was at the top of his career playing for one of the biggest and best team in the world then. It was a dream come true for him.
In one of the Ac Milans home matches, Taribo felt he was having a good match but the coach thought otherwise and opted to substitute him for another player.
The substitution was granted by the referee and as Taribo west crossed the line of the pitch to his bench he pulled off his jersey threw it at the coach and walked away into the dressing room.
The coach punished him by not featuring him in any of their matches for the whole season and soon he was not even on the bench anymore and finally Taribo west contract was terminated.
Any time you act in anger you do more destruction or damage to yourself and the people you love than good, because the first thing anger takes from a man is his sense of reasoning.
iii. You must take control of your spending habit.
You cannot be emotionally sound to go after your Divine gift when you are in debt.
Debt is a heavy burden which suppresses the idea and initiative of the bearer. A man in debt is like a horse tied to a loaded cart in a competitive race with other free horses.
If your Divine gift is to bring you financial gains, you must learn to delay gratification and cultivate the habit of saving.
To fully understand how to be able to save purposefully, get a copy of my CD The basic principle of saving.
Whatever you have on you now save ten percent (10%) of it, if you do this now you are the right man that Napoleon Bonaparte was talking about when he said The right man is the man who do things now.
You must never let what you like direct your spending habit but what you need because anytime you buy what you like rather than what you need you are foolishly impoverishing yourself to enrich another man.
"Poverty can never be far from a man who earns to spend" so says Pastor Mathew Ashimolowo.
iv. You must take control of your mind.
For you to be able to conquer yourself, you must have total control of your mind. If you cannot control your mind you cannot make decision yourself, consequently, other people will make decision for you.
It should be noted that mind control is simply Thought control. Your thoughts are the weapon with which you can kill your fears and awake that genius in you to fulfill your purpose in life because it add value to your believe.
And it is said that
A man's value determines his believe,
His believe determines his expectations.
His expectations determines his attitude
His attitude determines his actions.
And his action becomes his character.
Thoughts are things and they should be treated as such. You must control the type of thoughts that you feed your mind or that is suggested to your mind by other people.
Let your mind be pervaded with the thought of the fulfillment of your purpose in life and also of your ability to make it in life with your Divine gift and all the circumstances and people you need for this accomplishment will come your way through the law of attraction.
After Napoleon Bonaparte became the king of France, he became obsessed with power and rather than possessing power, he lost is mind and power possessed him.
First, he drove away his wife Josephine the only woman that had loved him and always advice him. Then he wanted to conquer the world but soon he met his waterloo.
Mind control is the remote with which you can control any feeling you may have, be it anger, hatred, love and even sexual desire.
No matter where you are starting from in life you can always achieve anything you desire if only you can exercise great self control.
Little wonder, After series of investigation and documentations of men who have failed due to lack of self-control in his book "THE LAW OF SUCCESS" Volume I-III
Napoleon Hill came to the conclusion that, "No man who exercises great self-control can permanently be defeated by life"
And Pietro Aretino told the world "I am indeed a king, because I know how to rule myself".
Exercise self-control and live a happy and successful life.
Please Click on a post a comment box below to share your thoughts with me.
Written by Ishola Ayodele (ANIPR)
Result Driven Communication Expert.
CEO Bezit Global Link Limited.
Proprietor of Paragon of Excellence Int'l School.
@ishopr on Twitter
Facebook.com/ay.ishola
08077932282 on WhatsApp
Niceness
ReplyDeleteYou summed it up quite nicely.
ReplyDeleteYou summed it up quite nicely.
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